We all want to reach a place in our lives and careers where we look back and think, Wow, I did it. I have arrived. That was difficult, but here I am, a success. I’ve lived long enough for a generation to change and I’m better for it. If that happens to you, and you look back at how you got where you are (somewhere right!), do you think the first thing you’ll do is thank the haters? Want to say out loud to anyone listening in the area, ‘I’m here because they said I wouldn’t be here. They said I couldn’t.” Well, that’s what you have in common with Jennifer Lopez, who thanked the haters on Sunday as she took home the Generation Award at the MTV Movie & TV Awards in Santa Monica’s Barker Hangar.
“I want to thank all the people who told me to my face – or, when I was not in the room – that I couldn’t do this,” Lopez said through tears. “I really don’t think I could have done it without you.”
I assume Lopez meant the one who decided she shouldn’t get an Oscar nomination for scammers. But she didn’t only thank her haters. That was just one of a long list of thanks, including her kids and her manager and the fans and “true love” and “those who lied to me.”
“I want to thank all the people who gave me this life. I want to thank the people who have brought me joy and those who have broken my heart,” she said. “Those who were true, and those who lied to me. I want to thank true love, and the way I lied to myself, because that’s how I knew I had to grow.”
Most people don’t get an award that forces someone to look back and take stock. Most don’t get hardware that pushes someone to really process what success meant to them and who made it possible along the way. Maybe we should all take an MTV Awards moment to bless our loved ones and our haters right now, with a podium or not. Like a little gratitude exercise on this Monday in June.
Lopez also said, “Ben and everyone are home, hello! Wait for me to eat, I’ll be home at 7!”
And maybe that’s also a good exercise to do. Take a moment from your busy day and say, “Ben and everyone else home, hello! Wait for me to eat. I’ll be home by 7!” Just try it! How does that feel? You’re like a brand new person, right? It’s like going to a spa. “Ben and everyone at home, hello! Wait for me to eat. I’ll be home by 7!”
With that little aside, though, the big question is no longer: who are J.Lo’s haters? The question becomes: which house are we talking about here?
It is a truth widely recognized that a newly engaged, highly decorated star couple will need a home. A big house. Somewhere to store their respective big awards. After getting engaged in April, Affleck and Lopez are reportedly looking and shopping, shopping and searching. There were photos of the couple and Lopez’s sister visiting a small residence reportedly worth $68 million, and they were rumored to be contracted for a $50 million Bel Air estate with nine bathrooms. .
There was this headline on TMZ: “SIGN INDICATE HUGE HOUSEBUY. Unconfirmed, but interesting!!!” TMZ reported that there were moving trucks at the house and at Lopez and Affleck’s respective homes, which is indeed unconfirmed, but interesting!!! Either they’re buying something, they’ve bought something, or they’re running a massive disinformation campaign.
Perhaps they spent their first weekend in this mysterious house where trucks were waiting to unpack the kitchen. You can imagine Sunday night, right? Lopez, as promised, will be home at 7 p.m. All the madness of red carpets and crowded stadium seats in the airplane hangar fades away as she makes her way to the tiny ranch house that is her closet. She scrubs her face and puts her hair up and changes from a leather vest to soft house trousers. She walks downstairs for dinner and the whole family is sitting there around the table, her kids and his all together. Ben says (heavy Beantown accent here): “Welcome home, honey. Great work there.” And while she has her meal – still warm! – she says: ‘Ah, thank you, my love. It wouldn’t have been possible without you and the haters.” Just another typical dinner at casa Lopez-Affleck. Just another normal Sunday evening in June.